Abortion Mama

yourwordstheycutlikeknives:

anewcreationinchrist replied to your post: So wanting my three children to continue to have a home, a parent around, food and an income makes me a bad parent? Because that was my choice. Either I had that baby and became the single mother of four, unemployed, no healthcare, not devote my time to my dying husband, lose my home, and have to depend on welfare longer than I did, or I do the responsible and abort so I can take care of my husband in his last hours, continue working and keep my home.

Or you know give the baby up for adoption… I know you used race as a card but really, most people don’t give a crap as to what race the baby are. They can’t have babies so they want one. What we really need to do is change adoption… Anyways.

Except not. I was told outright that there were no matches for me by the social worker. No one wants a half brown, half black baby. And besides, having barely slept during my husband’s last weeks, my age and not really caring for myself during that time period, choosing instead to care for him and my children, I doubt I would have given birth to a healthy child- another factor in adoption.

yourwordstheycutlikeknives:

godismylight replied to your post: Really? Why? My children call me mama, I campaign for abortion rights and had an abortion. There is nothing horrific about it.

I think what he’s saying is you shouldn’t be proud and show off the fact that you were okay with killing your own child.

I am proud. I’m extremely proud, in fact. You know why? Because that abortion saved my other children and allowed me to give my husband my full attention in the last years of his life. That abortion enabled me to continue working full time so I retained my health insurance and income. That income lets me pay my morgage, put food on the table, buy my children school supplies and clothing. We’re still on limited welfare, by the by, and are hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt due to my husband’s end of life care. Giving birth in this situation would have harmed him, my children and my childrens’ future. I am good mother- that is why I did this.

yourwordstheycutlikeknives:

maybeimmadreamer replied to your post: I had my abortion BECAUSE I am a good mother and because I love my children. You insinuating that it makes me a bad mother is honestly horrific

Is this person serious right now. Who would brag about having an abortion?

 I don’t even know… It’s so sad..

I consider myself a good mother partially due to my abortion. I do have a personal blog, you know. This one just pertains entirely to abortion

prochoicetruth:

One thing that consistently bothers me about the abortion issue is that it is treated purely as a ‘moral’ question, and no one ever talks about the pragmatic issues related to abortion.

It must be stated that abortion has great pragmatic utility:  as a “contraceptive” of last resort, as a medical necessity, etc.   It has pragmatic value as an elective procedure, as in terminating unwanted pregnancy, terminating dangerous pregnancy, or even terminating a genetically defective pregnancy.  It has pragmatic utility in terms of reducing the number of children born into poverty, or born with painful or crippling disease, or even reducing the burden of couples that would otherwise wish to wait a few years so that they can better afford children.

And here is what really bothers me—pragmatic, consequentialist arguments are given attention for most other political issues.   Entire branches of ethics are based on thinking about the consequences of actions—and many people find such arguments far more convincing than the Kantian ethics system that often (unknowingly) underlies political debates like abortion.   But such things are never really discussed when abortion comes up, perhaps out of fear that pro-choice proponents can be made in strawmen pro-abortion monsters. 

Well so be it. Frankly, I do not really care if the fetus/child has the same “rights” as a pregnant woman.  I tend to increasingly view that question as highly misleading and disingenuous, because it not only simplifies a complex issue into a simple yes/no answer, but it simplifies that complex issue into a yes/no assertion.  It allows no recognition of the positive (and perhaps even negative) real consequences of abortion.

Every single time someone falls into the trap of discussing “exceptions in the case of rape or incest or health of the mother”, anti-choice zealots win. They win because the pro-choice side has already given up on its goal of making abortion safe and available for every woman. They win by moving the goal posts away from whether abortion should be legal and towards the question of when should abortion not be illegal.

I wish the debate was framed as, “This is a private decision that a woman makes with her health care provider, and possibly her partner. As a private medical decision, society should not be involved.”

(via spitefulbitch)